I have often regretted my speech; Never my Silence! – Xenocrates

SILENCE!

In a noisy world of other people’s opinions, subliminal marketing messages to buy things we do not need and our own busy minds, we forget that Silence is sometimes a luxury we have the right to give ourselves!

Now I am not referring to the Miranda Warning with which we have all become familiar despite not having led a life of undiscovered crime, thanks to all the detective shows on television!

It requires an officer of the law to inform an arrested person of interest they are taking into custody for interrogation that they do not have to answer any questions but that whatever they do say (or do) can be used in court as evidence against them.

The Miranda Warning goes like this: Read More→

Jealousy is the tribute mediocrity pays to Genius – Fulton J. Sheen

Achieve any small measure of success and Jealousy or Envy will rear it’s ugly head around you! This is certain. It is an undeniable marker and milestone of Success!

Nisha (not her actual name to protect her identity)  is a client of mine who has achieved phenomenal heights of success once she started getting her head down and going for her dream with every thing she had! This has taken her two years of concerted effort, determination and sheer grit.  For someone who had sold out on her dreams because the world had told her she did not deserve it, it was not worth pursuing and that she was not good enough to compete with other big names out there, she has earned her new found success.

However, she stopped right in her tracks when she began to  face the fire of jealousy and envy that was being hurled at her. She got flak even from her own family members and her children turned on her accusing her of self centred motivation and neglect. Her mother and sister accused her of being too big for her boots and she started crumbling. She came to me in tears for her coaching and mastermind session and it was all we could do to keep her fixed on the goal of her Dream. Read More→

 Keep cool. Anger is not a an argument.  Daniel Webster

Summer with all the joys it brings, of barbecues and pool parties, of endless sunny days and cool swims, of swarms of mosquitoes and Coldstone ice-cream, of beachwear and sun screen lotion- is finally here.

We try and stay cool in order to deal with the perils of indulging in too much sun worship, wearing light summer clothes, staying out of the hot sun from mid morning to late afternoon. drinking lots of iced tea and refreshing gallons of cold water.

But what should we do when our colleagues, customers and families get us hot under the collar, a phenomenon that is not confined to the summer months, but happens all year round? Read More→

Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments.
Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove.   – Shakespearean Sonnet-116

The world watched with tender eyes as Princess Diana’s first born, Prince William, married his college sweetheart, Kate Middleton, in a splendid Royal Wedding which was everything it should be  to qualify as a popular TV event.

There was glamour and suspense. Speculation about the dress was at an all time high. Famous guests arrived in fashionable wedding attire that is appropriate for such a Royal occasion, a beautiful bride, a handsome bridegroom, carriages, footmen, fireworks, cheering throngs and a kiss on the famous balcony of Buckingham place. Read More→

The most exciting attractions are between two opposites that never meet. – Andy Warhol

At a dinner party the other day, the general chatter was directed to the subject of how opposites attract. Since most of the guests were either married or in committed long term relationships, there followed a lively exchange of how they each were different and the ways in which it contributed to either strengthening or exhausting the relationship dynamic.

We are surrounded and held by the relationships we forge with those around us.

Whether in a personal context, or a work related one, the same principles apply – we want sameness, people like us, yet are attracted to opposites. We seek people with complementary skills and end up with people just like us!

How can we make sense of this Attraction of Opposites without letting it drive us completely insane? Read More→